Plus Size Halloween Costume Ideas

Halloween is coming up and sometimes it might seem a little difficult for my plus sized ladies to figure out to be for Halloween. Well, I’m here with a few outfit ideas for you all! You can wear the costume just as is, or come up with your own creative way to put a twist on them!

1.Bumble-bee (party city)

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2.Minnie Mouse(ashley stuart)

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3.Black Sea Buccanear (leg avenue)

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4. Princess Leia (Torrid)

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5. Mad Hatter(leg avenue)

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6. Shuri (partycity)

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7. Ursula (leg avenue)

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Out of all of these, I’d have to say my favorite is the Mad Hatter. Which one is your favorite? If you would like more posts like these with specific types of costumes then let me know in the comments!

 

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Blogger Awards Ceremony!

First I’d like to begin and say thank you all so much for these nominations. To see my consistent hard work not go unnoticed really means a lot to me. Next, I’m a tad bit behind on making posts for these nominations, so I have about 3 nominations that I need to tackle. With that being said, I decided to just do all three of them in one blog post.

1.Blogger Recognition Award

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I was nominated by the beautiful Ruth(melanintalks). I’m so honored and grateful to receive this award. This is my first time ever receiving this award. Thank you so much to Ruth for recognizing me and I’m glad she’s gotten recognized as well as she deserves it. You all should check her out!

How It All Began

The Black Princess Diaries came from what was originally a tumblr I was trying to make. I said to myself I wanted a place to showcase my poetry, but I have so many tumblr’s already that instead, I decided to create a blog or website for it. Thus this blog was born. I originally planned to only showcase my poetry, but I thought I should do more. I know I have a lot of opinions about different topics and I also love to give advice, so I decided to share those as well. This became a real life diary of my thoughts, opinions, and more. And I’m so happy as to how it’s all turning out.

Advice To New Bloggers

1.Make sure you’re being 100% yourself and blogging about what you want to blog about. Don’t feel like you always have to be so proper or stick with topics you see everyone else doing. What’s creative or authentic about that?

2.Don’t pay so much attention to the stats. You’ll drive yourself nuts if you keep focusing on things like that, especially if you’re a new blogger like myself. Just keep doing what you do and the numbers will suddenly soar without you even knowing it.

                                                                 The Rules:

  • Thank the blogger who nominated you and provide a link to their blog
  • Write a post explaining how your blog got started
  • Give 2 pieces of advice to new bloggers
  • Nominate 15 other bloggers you feel deserves some recognition
  • Comment on each blog nominating them, providing the link to the post you created

 

2.Flawesome Award

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For this award, I was nominated by the lovely Gabbie(theopinionatedone). Again very honored to receive this award. I’ve never heard of this award before and I really like the concept of it. Gabbie is an amazing blogger and you all should check out her work as well and follow her.

My Flaws

1.I’m a huge procrastinator.  I procrastinate everything and it’s terrible. I thought being in college would help it, but it hasn’t one bit. Sometimes I feel like I do a little bit better when I procrastinate some things, but others…not so much. That’s honestly why I need to write all my blog posts in one day and schedule them. If I didn’t, I’d probably be up late writing posts throughout the week(which I’ve done before). I’ll get better at it…eventually.

2.I have driving anxiety. I’m pretty anxious about a good amount of things in general, but my driving anxiety just might be the worst at this point. It really sucks because it restricts me a lot from going places myself without someone taking me. I don’t have anxiety about driving in general. I can drive to the store, school, friend’s houses, etc. It’s more so dealing with the highway, going downtown, going places I’m not familiar, etc. I hate it because I would love to go downtown more but I can’t because I have no one to hang with aka also someone to take me. I know I’ll get over it soon, but I hope it’s sooner than I feel like it is.

3.I can’t stick with anything. Lord knows I can’t stick with anything too long. I’ve had goals to do this and that, but it only lasts a few weeks…if that. I hate it because one of the goals I’ve made it trying to lose weight and I can’t ya’ll how many times I’ve started over with that! I really want this to change, but it’ll take a lot of time and dedication. Both of which I’m lacking at this moment.

FLAWESOME AWARD RULES

  • Link back the Creator.
  • Display the Award.
  • List 3 flaws.
  • Tag 10 people.

 

3.Sunshine Blogger Award

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On to my final award, which I was nominated by Tera(itsmycrazybeautifullife). This is my 2nd time being nominated for this award and I’m just so grateful to once again receiving this honor. Tera is another dedicated blogger and she deserved this award. Everyone should also check out her blog and her social links as well!

Her Questions

  1. Where do you see yourself in 5 years from now? I’m hoping that I’m living in my own place with a puppy and whatever I choose to do, I hope it’s something that makes me happy.
  2. What do you hope to get out of blogging? First I hope to help others. I love helping others and giving advice, so I’m hoping that I’m doing a good job of that through my blog. Second, I’m kind of hoping that this will become a career path for me. I say kind of because I don’t want to get my hopes up too much if it doesn’t work out, but I want to make The Black Princess Diaries not only a blog but a brand. 
  3. Who is your favorite celebrity and why? I have waay to many faves to name just one. I’ll name a few: Kevin Hart, Nicki Minaj, Michael B. Jordan, Will Smith, H.E.R. I like these celebs because of their talents, whether it be they keep me laughing, give me songs to vibe to, or entertain me in different tv shows and movies.
  4. Who is your best supporter? My mom. I know she supports me 100% and she always lets me know that.
  5. After a long stressful day, how do you relax? Liquor. Ok, not really, but I do love a good Moscato. I love to just change my clothes, make some food, and relax by watching youtube or something on TV.
  6. What is your spirit animal and why? I had to figure this out for a class one day. I think I found out my spirit animal was a dog, but I don’t remember why. 
  7. What advice would you give to new bloggers? Be yourself. Be creative. Have fun.
  8. It’s fall, what is your favorite thing about it? I’m not much of a fall person, but I do love when it gets to a point of where it’s not so hot. I also hate though how cold it just rapidly starts to get.
  9. What are your top 3 apps for blogging? Really I just use twitter, but I did create an instagram and I have a bloglovin as well. 
  10. If you could donate to a charity, which one would you? Either one that goes towards helping animals or one that goes towards cancer. 
  11. What’s your favorite scary movie? I don’t like scary movies. I have seen insidious and the purge though although those are thrillers and not really scary. 

My Questions

1.What’s your favorite thing about blogging

2.What’s your least favorite thing about blogging?

3.How did you start your blog?

4.You can only eat at one fast food restaurant for the rest of your life…what do you choose?

5.Do you plan on making blogging your career?

6.What’s advice you would give to new bloggers?

7.How do you choose to relax after a long day?

8.Podcast or music when driving?

9.What do you like to do before you start writing your blog posts?

10.What’s your favorite season…summer, spring, fall, winter? Why?

11.Have you ever been nominated for this award before?

Rules

  1. Thank the blogger who nominated you and link to the original post 
  2. Answer the 11 questions they’ve asked you
  3. Nominate 11 other bloggers and ask them 11 questions
  4. Have fun!!

We made it to the end of the ceremony! Again I’d like to thank all three of these ladies for nominating me with these awards. Below I will provide all my nominees. I nominate each and everyone of you for all 3 awards. You all deserve it!

Nominees:

  1. boozyhousewife
  2. avianaworldblog
  3. mylifelines
  4. thejoyousliving
  5. awkwardfordays
  6. therconnect
  7. bingingonabudget
  8. dreamwithconfidence
  9. jennasworldview
  10. naturalgoddess242
  11. brianabeautyblog
  12. beauty-brat
  13. patrickrealstories
  14. baileyleah
  15. insidethethoughtsoflia

 

 

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The Importance Of Getting Checked (BCA)

Although people connect October to Halloween, it’s also connected to a more important subject…Breast Cancer. I don’t have experience with breast cancer, but I know there are women all over the world who do. In honor of Breast Cancer Awareness Month, I’ll be making a few posts throughout the month and to kick it off I’ll be discussing the importance of getting a mammogram. Men, pay attention because this is important information for you to know as well.

Because some of my readers might not know what a mammogram is, let’s begin with the definition of a mammogram.

Definition: Mammogram is defined as an x-ray picture of the breast(cancer.gov).

It is adviced that women begin getting checked at the age of 40. If breast cancer is common in your family, then it’s suggested you go at an even younger age (about 30).

Why Is It Important I Get A Mammogram?

  1. First is the obvious reason of being able to detect if there’s a possibility of cancer. This could also mean you being able to detect it early and getting treatment before the disease spreads.
  2. Results have shown that getting a mammogram helps reduce the number of deaths that are caused by breast cancer within women ages 40-74.
  3. It’s important to be aware of your body and to get informed of any potentially harmful unusual behavior.

 

Statistics

  1. 1 in 8 women in the United States will develop invasive breast cancer over the course of their lifetime
  2. 266,120 cases of invasive breast cancer are expected to be diagnosed in women in the US in 2018
  3. Women aren’t the only ones. About 2,550 new cases of invasive breast cancer are expected to be diagnosed in 2018 and a man’s lifetime risk of breast cancer is about 1 in 1,000.
  4. 40,920 women are expected to die in 2018 from breast cancer in 2018. The number of deaths has decreased for women under 50 due to treatment advances, earlier detection, and increased awareness.
  5. The risk of breast cancer in a woman doubles if she has a first-degree relative who’s been diagnosed with breast cancer. In turn, 85% of breast cancer occur in women who have no family history of the disease.

Another thing that’s important is a breast self-exam. You can do these on yourself once a month to keep in check and make sure nothing is feeling odd or anything strange is going on with your breasts. I will provide a guide on how to do it below that’s also available as a pdf provided by maurerfoundation.org

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It’s important we as women (and men) take care of ourselves, and I hope that you will now consider doing a self-test and getting a mammogram if you’ve never thought about it before. Happy Breast Cancer Awareness Month!

 

**Sources: https://www.breastcancer.org, https://www.cancer.gov/types/breast/mammograms-fact-sheet#q3, http://maurerfoundation.org**

 

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5 Disney Channel Halloween Movies To See!

It’s Halloween/ scary movie season! In honor of it, I’ll be providing you guys with 5 movies that were my favorites to watch on Disney channel (and still is if I’m being honest) that may have also been yours too!

1. Hocus Pocus (1993)

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Description: After moving to Salem, Mass., teenager Max Dennison (Omri Katz) explores an abandoned house with his sister Dani (Thora Birch) and their new friend, Allison (Vinessa Shaw). After dismissing a story Allison tells as superstitious, Max accidentally frees a coven of evil witches (Bette Midler, Sarah Jessica Parker, Kathy Najimy) who used to live in the house. Now, with the help of a magical cat, the kids must steal the witches’ book of spells to stop them from becoming immortal. (google)

2. Halloween Town (1998)

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Description: Marnie and her kids get a big shock when they follow grandma home to Halloweentown – and find out they come from a family of witches. The town is the only place where supernatural beings can lead a `normal’ life, but trouble is looming, and on her 13th birthday Marnie not only finds she is a witch, but that she and her family are involved in a fight against the evil that is threatening to take over the world. (google)

3. Don’t Look Under The Bed (1999)

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Description:Spooky tale about a no-nonsense teenager who refuses to believe in the supernatural – until she is confronted with the bogeyman under her bed. When somebody starts to play destructive pranks in her neighbourhood, the girl is framed as the culprit, but when she realizes that the root of her problem is the real bogeyman, she is forced to change her mind about the paranormal. (google)

4. Twitches (2005)

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Description:Reunited on their 21st birthday, twin sisters (Tia Mowry, Tamera Mowry) use their magic powers to save their kingdom from the forces of darkness. (google)

5. Underwraps (1997)

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Description: Three twelve-year-old children, Amy, Marshall and Gilbert, encounter a mummy which has been undiscovered in three thousand years. While investigating, they accidentally revive him, but he must be returned to his resting place by midnight on Halloween or he will never find his long lost love. (google)

Have you heard or seen any of these movies? If you’ve seen any of them then what’s your favorite?

 

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Blogger Struggles: Balancing School And Blogging

Blogging and being in school can be a major struggle sometimes. I’m in school currently  while blogging, and it’s almost like having a balance scale trying to balance both but you can’t get it quite even. That little bit of uneven balance could be just enough to cause a whole setback.

For me, my struggles are like a chain reaction. First, I become too drained. School is a lot of work. It’s almost a job within itself (and I’ve put it many many hours with no pay). I’ve had plenty of late nights and a lot of meetings where I don’t get done until 2am. This being a constant thing is producing a blow out. So then my blog suffers a little bit. I usually write my blog posts on Sundays and I schedule them throughout the week. Writing blog posts take a lot, and when you feel like you’ve had a blow out and your energy has left you, it’s a little hard to write anything. Sometimes I can’t write all three posts in one day and have to take time to write them throughout the week, but I get it done because this is something I love.

Then the chain reaction continues and after being so drained, my brain feels like it’s ran out of ideas. Not only did my body have a blow out but so did my brain. I have a list of blog post ideas, so that’s not the problem. The problem is when it’s time to write. Things don’t seem to flow as well. I use so much brain power into my school work that I  just can’t get to writing as proficiently as I usually do. I will admit, I haven’t been too happy with some of the stuff I’ve written in some of my recent bigger posts. You all seem to like them, and I’m glad, but knowing what I’m capable of and knowing what I could’ve done with the post just makes me disappointed. But, we are our biggest critics aren’t we?

And lastly, becoming disconnected with my social media and connecting with others. I’m very introverted and spending a lot of time with group members or just at school around others causes my social meter to explode. I need a break from talking to others. Even my texting skills have suffered quite a bit this semester.  Being a blogger, it’s important to connect, update social media’s, and respond to emails and comments for your blog. Being socially drained, I don’t want to do any of that. Not only do I not want to do any of that, but I just have to find the time for all of that during my day. This may be online socializing, but it’s still socializing and I often need a break to reset my meter.

My blog doesn’t just suffer. If things were reversed and I paid more attention to my blog and made little time for school or didn’t spread my time out accordingly, then school would be suffering a lot as well. It’s all about balance, but right now my balance scale is teetering and it’s hard getting it to stop right at the center.

Are you someone who’s blogging and going to school? How do you balance the two?

 

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Being Plus Sized In The Gym

I’ve just started trying to workout more and I’m trying my best to stay consistent. I can for sure say I’m not new to stepping in the gym because I’ve had quite a few times that I’ve started my journey over now (but who’s counting?). One thing I can say about stepping into the gym that never changes, is the feeling of being someone who’s plus sized in the gym.

I know this doesn’t apply to all of my plus sized ladies or fellas, and it even maybe apply to others who aren’t plus sized, but for now I’m speaking as a plus sized person who sometimes feels a little uncomfortable. I know some of you know what I’m talking about. You step into the gym and you feel like everyone is staring at you like you don’t belong, which to me is crazy because there’s so many “doctors” out there telling us we need to go to the gym. If that’s true, then why make fun of someone you see trying to better themselves?

A lot of it’s in the brain, but I’ve also seen videos and pictures on social media that people have taken making fun of how a bigger person looks on a workout machine. For what? They’re doing a lot more than you are sitting there wasting time talking about someone trying to better themselves. Now you’re the one who looks like garbage.

Another feeling I know I get when I’m in the gym is the feeling like I have something to prove. Like I automatically know that when people see someone my size, they expect me not to do much or to be super slow or just confused on how to use anything as if the gym is foreign to me. Again, also thoughts that are a lot of times all in the brain. This makes me feel like I have to automatically go as hard as I can when doing cardio or go to the highest weight when on the weight machines just to prove a point. But who am I proving a point to exactly? No one came to me saying “You can’t do this or that”.

It’s all in the brain and the atmosphere. It’s the feeling of being the only one my size in a space filled with people who are smaller/skinny/more fit like everyone expects me to fail when in actuality people are minding their business.

There are some plus sized people out there who might really want to start going to the gym but are scared of what they’ll look like working out or just being judged. You know what you’ll look like? You’ll look like someone who’s trying to do better for yourself and your body. You’ll look like someone who’s ready to kick ass and take names no matter what level, speed, or weight you’re at.

Although thoughts of being judged comes through my mind and I often feel like I’m competing, I’ve also learned to just blast my music, go into a different space, and get shit done. If I can do it, I know you can too. I believe in you.

What are your thoughts about going to the gym? Have you ever felt judged or like you were competing?

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5 Must See Black Comedies

Recently, I wrote a post suggesting some black movies to see(you can check the post out here). Well, I’m back with more movie recommendations for your weekend! This time I’ll be suggesting some black comedies. These can be helpful now, and later after watching all those scary movies you’ll be seeing next month. Here are my 5 favorite/ must see black comedies!

1. Girls Trip(2017)

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Description: Best friends Ryan, Sasha, Lisa and Dina are in for the adventure of a lifetime when they travel to New Orleans for the annual Essence Festival. Along the way, they rekindle their sisterhood and rediscover their wild side by doing enough dancing, drinking, brawling and romancing to make the Big Easy blush. (google)

2. Barbershop (2002)

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Description: A smart comedy about a day in the life of a barbershop on the south side of Chicago. Calvin (Ice Cube), who inherited the struggling business from his deceased father, views the shop as nothing but a burden and a waste of his time. After selling the shop to a local loan shark, Calvin slowly begins to see his father’s vision and legacy and struggles with the notion that he just sold it out. (google)

3. Johnson Family Vacation (2004)

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Description: Separated from his beautiful wife (Vanessa L. Williams), Nate Johnson (Cedric the Entertainer) wants to make amends with her and spend time with his kids, finding the perfect chance for bonding in a cross-country trip to a family reunion. Convincing them all to join in on the journey, Nate takes the Johnson clan on a trek from California to Missouri, but they encounter various strange situations and eccentrics along the way, including a quirky hitchhiker (Shannon Elizabeth). (google)

4. Soul Plane (2004)

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Description: Following a ridiculously awful flight that leads to his pet’s death, Nashawn Wade (Kevin Hart) files a lawsuit against the airline, and wins a multimillion-dollar settlement. Determined to create a better flying experience, Nashawn starts his own airline, one that caters to an African-American clientele. Going into business with a tricked-out plane piloted by the smooth Capt. Mack (Snoop “Doggy” Dogg), the airline hits a snag when it has to deal with the family of Elvis Hunkee (Tom Arnold). (google)

5. Next Friday (2000)

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Description: Craig (Ice Cube) bails his friend out of trouble, survives a climatic confrontation with Debo, the neighborhood bully, and ends up with the girl. In “Next Friday” the bully is back as Debo, who spent two years behind bars, is released from prison. Fearing for his sons safety, Craig’s father (John Witherspoon) sends his son to live with Uncle Elroy (Don “D.C.” Curry). However, Craig soon learns that trouble can find you no matter where you live. (google)

Like these type of posts and want more? Comment suggestions on what type of movies you want next! What’s your favorite comedy?

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Don’t Stay Silenced.

It’s no question that bullying is a big problem in the world and the worst problem is that it’s not illegal. It’s after the worst happens is when jail is involved. Before we can get into this subject, let’s define the word bullying.

Bullying: unwanted aggressive behavior; observed or perceived power imbalance; and repetition of behaviors or high likelihood of repetition (stopbullying.gov). This definition also goes into the two types of bullying, which are direct and indirect bullying. To find out more, you can check out the website.

Now that we have the definition of bullying, let’s look at some statistics for bullying.

 

About 28% of students in America Grades 6-12 have been bullied.

20% of students in America from grades 9-12 have been bullied and

30% of young people admit to being bullied.

15% of high school students were electronically bullied in the past year

Lastly, a whole 55.2% of LGBTQ students experienced cyber bullying 

(all stats taken from stopbullying.gov)

Now let’s look at a graph with some stats from nces.ed.gov.

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I’m not going to go through these because it’s a lot, but taking a look at this, it shows the different ways of bullying, percentages of sexes that receive these types of bullying tactics, and the percentages of sexes as a whole. Again, looking at this confirms what we already know, bullying is a problem.

I know a lot of these stats are based on kids in high school and under, but adults get bullied as well. Adult bullying is just as much of a problem as youth bullying. Even worse is that, because you’re an adult, you might feel like you can’t say anything. Children are told to go to adults when they’re bullied, but who do adults go to?

In 2011, foxnews.com reported that careerbuilder.com did a survey on U.S. workers.

 

1 in 4 respondents stated they were a victim of bullying at work.

14% said the bully was their supervisor

11% said the bully was a co-worker

No respondents confronted or reported their bully.

 

Does this sound alarming to you? It does to me.

Bullyingstatistics.org gives 5 different types of adult bullying. For this post, I’ll just give the three that might be known the most:

1.Impulsive Adult Bully- this is connected with spontaneous bullying. The bullying isn’t planned.

2.Physical Bully- In adult bullying, this doesn’t always mean actual fighting. This can involve taking the stuff of the person who’s being bullied.

3.Verbal Adult Bully-this type of bullying usually involves rumors or verbally humiliating the victim. A lot of this, I believe, is seen through the internet.

 

Each type of bullying is different, but they all have the same affects. Being bullied as a child sadly doesn’t always stop when you reach adulthood. Whether you’re a child or an adult, you can’t stay silenced. SPEAK UP. Not speaking up about being bullied can cause more harm to yourself than it can the bully. Find someone you trust. Take action. Bring light to darkness that the bullies choose to hide in.

You can do it.

 

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A Letter To My Younger Self.

Dear younger self,

Wow, I look at you and I see someone who I wish I still was but with some attributes I never want to see again. I see a little elementary school girl. You are so bright and smart. You receive so many awards and accomplishments. I am so proud of you! You’ve even gotten out of your comfort zone a few times. Remember when you did that fashion show at school and MC’d for it at the same time? That was crazy huh? Right about now, you’re obsessing over your first boyfriend. Don’t worry about when he stops talking you. He grows up to take a completely different path…and trust me you’ll be surprised when you get older. Not only do I see a bright girl, but I also see a girl who’s hurt. I see a girl who’s been bullied so badly starting just at 3rd grade. I see a girl who’s trying to push through, but doesn’t look forward to school sometimes. Who’s trying to ignore the harsh words that are constantly being thrown at her. And you do. You make it out with many honors and I’m so proud of you, but I also hate to say that those very words leave you with many scars and insecurities throughout your life too.

Dear younger self,

I see a middle school girl nervous as hell to start a new school, not knowing what this new step will take. You make new friends and even join chorus, which you love to your core. Your insecurities still follow you, in fact they get a little worse. Right now you’re not happy with your skin tone or your hair. Although I wish you accepted them now, When you get older you’ll start to accept these things and be proud of your blackness. Because your black is so beautiful babygirl. I wish the bullying stops for you, but it continues. You’ve had your things messed with and you’ve been talked about. This will make you very protective over your stuff when you’re older and you’ll always wonder if people are talking about you when you walk by. Don’t let it get to that point. You have to let go of what people did to you, otherwise the jerks will always win.

Right now is when you’re starting to try to find yourself a little. You’re even trying to say curse words but it just isn’t feeling right huh? (wait until you’re older, you’ll be shocked). You’re getting into a few things that normal kids this age get into. And yea you get into a little trouble for it as well. Be careful with what you’re doing. It turns into something you begin to wish you could step away from. Lastly, I see a girl who wishes her dad was around. I know it’s hard seeing your cousin with her dad when he visits. It’s hard seeing them having fun. There are going to be men(some you’re not so sure about) that come in your life as you grow up, but none of them are your dad. He’ll try to come in high school, but by that time it’ll be too late. It’s ok to be sad. But you’ll make it without him. You’ll be ok.

Dear younger self,

You’re a high schooler now girl and it is insane! I know right now you are pissed about finding out you have to wear glasses. You also don’t get new ones until adulthood after you break those very ugly glasses you angrily picked out. Surprise alert….your eyesight gets worse. About 9th grade you’re starting to figure out this whole sexual preference thing. I know you hate to have to hide things when you’re just trying to figure out who you are, but push through babygirl. You eventually figure things out. You don’t realize this, but you might be depressed a little bit. Don’t try to eat yourself to a heart attack…it’s not going to work(thank God). I wish you were more positive about life. Hell, I wish that changed for you after high school. 11th grade is when the bullying finally stops. All these years and it’s finally done. Go talk to somebody about it. I know you may not 100% realize the effects, but try and open up to your mom, get some help. Because if not now, then you’ll go many years with the past lingering onto you. You’re going to be shocked to know that you wear a lot of black now. Crazy right!? But don’t worry, you’re still girlier than ever.

And lastly, your perspective about relationships and marriage will change. I know right now you’re hating every one who’s in a relationship. You’re crying over it even. I want you to know that being in a relationship isn’t all you think. I want you to learn to be happy alone now, because very soon you’re going to find someone and you’re going to go through it. Stay away from him and stay away from dating sites. You’re worth so much more than what he puts you through. I have a tip for you….SIGN UP FOR COLLEGE EARLY. Don’t let your procrastination get to you because the school you’re at sucks. And don’t feel like you have to sign up for college right away. Wait a year if you need to. Figure out what you really want to do in life. What makes you happy. I have good news, you finally drive! Bad news, it makes you anxious as hell and you barely go places outside of the norm. Change that before it happens.

You think you’re going to end up living in a box and all your friends are going to leave you and live their own lives. Change your mindset now. It gets so much harder to when you’re older. I want the best for you. You have so much potential. You go through so much internally. I want you to show yourself you can make it through life. You are so strong. Adulthood isn’t what you think. Freedom isn’t what you think and as an adult you’re trying to push through. Develop a strong mindset in highschool. Fight off those demons. Before I go, I want to say I love you and you’re beautiful. I know you don’t believe that and I’m sorry that wasn’t said to you more. I’m sorry those years of bullying has you believing otherwise. Start telling yourself that more because as an adult it’s hard…so hard. And I never want you to go a day without you saying it and believing it. Take care beautiful.

Love, your older self.

 

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Top 10 Must See Black Movies

The weekend is upon us and that means it’s time to relax with a nice movie night. Don’t know what to watch? Well if you’re looking for some movies more centered around black people, then I’m here to provide you some of my faves to watch! These are in no specific order.

1.Set It Off (1996)

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Description: “After being fired from her job as a bank teller, Frankie (Vivica A. Fox) begins working at a janitorial service with her friends Tisean (Kimberly Elise), a single mother; Cleo (Queen Latifah), a boisterous lesbian; and Stony (Jada Pinkett), who is dealing with the recent death of her brother. The women are struggling with their finances, so they decide to start robbing banks. At first the group is successful, but they soon attract the attention of an obsessive detective (John C. McGinley)” (google).

2. This Christmas(2007)

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Description: At holiday time, family matriarch Ma’Dere Whitfield (Loretta Devine) assembles her large brood for their first reunion in four years. However, family ties show signs of strain when various secrets come to light, especially concerning Marine Claude’s (Columbus Short) true military status, Quentin’s (Idris Elba) debts and teenage Baby’s (Chris Brown) secret plans to become a singer (google).

3. Black Panther(2018)

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Description: “T’Challa, heir to the hidden but advanced kingdom of Wakanda, must step forward to lead his people into a new future and must confront a challenger from his country’s past” (IMDB).

4. Get Out (2017)

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Description: “Now that Chris (Daniel Kaluuya) and his girlfriend, Rose (Allison Williams), have reached the meet-the-parents milestone of dating, she invites him for a weekend getaway upstate with Missy and Dean. At first, Chris reads the family’s overly accommodating behavior as nervous attempts to deal with their daughter’s interracial relationship, but as the weekend progresses, a series of increasingly disturbing discoveries lead him to a truth that he never could have imagined” (google).

5. Baby Boy (2001)

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Description: “The story of Jody (Tyrese Gibson), a misguided, 20-year-old African-American who is really just a baby boy finally forced-kicking and screaming to face the commitments of real life. Streetwise and jobless, he has not only fathered two children by two different women-Yvette (Taraji P. Henson) and Peanut (Tamara LaSeon Bass) but still lives with his own mother. He can’t seem to strike a balance or find direction in his chaotic life” (Google).

6. Poetic Justice(1993)

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Description: “Still grieving after the murder of her boyfriend, hairdresser Justice (Janet Jackson) writes poetry to deal with the pain of her loss. Unable to get to Oakland to attend a convention because of her broken-down car, Justice gets a lift with her friend, Iesha (Regina King) and Iesha’s postal worker boyfriend, Chicago (Joe Torry). Along for the ride is Chicago’s co-worker, Lucky (Tupac Shakur), to whom Justice grows close after some initial problems. But is she ready to open her heart again? (Google). 

7. House Party(1990)

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Description: Play’s parents are out of town, and he’s planning the house party to end all house parties. His best friend, Kid, wants to go more than anything, knowing Sydney (Tisha Campbell), the hottest girl in school, is sure to be there. But when Kid gets into a fight at school, his father (Kid ‘N Play) grounds him. Still determined to go, Kid sneaks out of the house and faces one calamity after another as he makes his way to Play’s house and the party of the school year (Google).

8. Why Did I Get Married(2007)

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Description: “Eight married friends take their annual reunion vacation in the Colorado mountains. Revelations of infidelity involving one pair shatter the amicable mood, forcing the remaining friends to take a hard look at the strength of their own marriages. The couples grapple with issues of commitment, love, betrayal and forgiveness as they try to move on with their lives” (Google).

9. Fruitvale Station(2013)

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Description: “Though he once spent time in San Quentin, 22-year-old black man Oscar Grant (Michael B. Jordan) is now trying hard to live a clean life and support his girlfriend (Melonie Diaz) and young daughter (Ariana Neal). Flashbacks reveal the last day in Oscar’s life, in which he accompanied his family and friends to San Francisco to watch fireworks on New Year’s Eve, and, on the way back home, became swept up in an altercation with police that ended in tragedy. Based on a true story” (Google).

10.Friday(1995)

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Description: “It’s Friday and Craig Jones (Ice Cube) has just gotten fired for stealing cardboard boxes. To make matters worse, rent is due, he hates his overbearing girlfriend, Joi (Paula Jai Parker), and his best friend, Smokey (Chris Tucker), owes the local drug dealer money — and that’s all before lunch. As the hours drag on, Jones and Smokey experience the gamut of urban life, complete with crackheads, shoot-outs and overly sexual pastors, concentrated into one single, unbelievable Friday” (Google).

 

These are just some of my personal faves. If you want me to do a part 2 to this list or make more lists like this, then comment below!

 

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