Black Woman Against Black Woman…Why Do We Do It?

Ok, so tell me…what’s the difference between these two women below? Besides them, of course, both being their own person.


I just see two successful women, yet the media likes to pin women again women. Even BET had made a very rude tweet stating that Cardi B’s Grammy win had Nicki Minaj dragged by her lacefront. Women are always pinned against each other…but I feel especially black women.

It’s not just these two artists either. I’ve also seen people pin Beyonce and Rihanna against each other over these Vogue cover photo’s pictured below. Do you know why? Ready for this….over their flower crowns. Crazy right?? Why can’t it just be two beautiful black women succeeding and rocking their crowns?


And clearly, it’s not just with celebrities either. Black women are compared and put against each other all the time. For example, maybe saying a black woman who’s hourglass shaped, oiled up, and in a bikini looks better than a black woman with more body and just in regular clothes. Or maybe saying a black woman wearing her natural hair is much better than a “sellout” wearing wigs and weaves. It’s done all the time and it should stop.

Black women are AMAZING. No matter what career, hairstyle, body type, etc. We all have something unique about us and it shouldn’t be a competition or comparison. There’s room for every type of black woman. I don’t know why people do it. Everyone has their own reasoning, but at the end of the day, we need to stop comparing each other, and start accepting each other.

       How do you feel about this subject? Comment below!



Mystery Blogger Award!

I would like to thank Sharon for nominating me for the Mystery blogger award! This award was originally created by Okoto Enigma. Be sure to check out both of their blogs!


Mystery Blogger Award Rules

1. Put the award logo on your blog

2. List the rules

3. Thank whoever nominated you and provide a link to their blog

4. Mention the creator of the award

5. State three random facts about yourself

6. Nominate 10-20 people

7. Ask your nominees 5 questions of your choosing

8. Share a link to your best post

Three Random Facts About Me

1. I’m an only child

2. I don’t know how to whistle

3. I consider myself a “book collector” (only because I buy more books than I actually read)

Sharon’s Questions

  1. If you won a million dollars what would you do with it?A: I would put some in savings for sure. Then I’d help my mom with some her stuff and buy stuff I need like a car and apartment as well as pay off loans and then a little fun spending on the side (because why not??)
  2. If you could visit anywhere in the world, where would it be?A: I would probably go to Nigeria or the Maldives
  3. Why did you become a blogger?A: I became a blogger to showcase my poetry, but blogging ended up being so much more for me.
  4. Are you a sweet or salty person?A: sweet
  5. Would you rather a quiet night in or a night on the town?A: both lol


Best Post/Favorite Post

the term oreo

I honestly had absolutely no idea which post to put, but I decided to do this one since not a lot of people really talk about it and it’s a term that some people haven’t heard of before. If you’d like to read it, you can click the link here.

Questions For My Nominees

1. What inspired you to start blogging?

2. What’s something you’ve never tried before but would like to?

3. Do you schedule your posts?

4. What’s something you feel makes your blog unique?

5. Dog or cat?


I nominate:

1. Sunflowerlyfestyle

2. Kathryn

3. Elen Mai 

4. Geraldine

5. Christy

6. Kikita

7. mylifelines


9. Lavrax

10. The Wallflower Club



My Top 10 Songs By Black Artists #BlogBlHistory

Challenge #3 is here! Today’s challenge is to list your top 10 songs that are by black artists. This might be a little difficult for me since I have thousands of songs that I love, but why not give it a try?? As always, don’t forget to check out the original creator Kathryn!

1. Blackbird- Nina Simone

2. Feeling Good-Nina Simone

3. Killing Me Softly- Fugees

4. Blind Man- Xavier Omar

5. No one- Alicia Keys

6. Chun-Li -Nicki Minaj

7. Bodak Yellow- Cardi B

8. Best Part- Daniel Caesar ft. H.E.R.

9. As I Am- H.E.R.

10. Location- Khalid

This was so hard and I barely could scratch the surface of my faves, but I hope you all enjoyed this list!

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Valentine’s Day Is Tomorrow….So What??

Happy early Valentine’s Day!

A little confused I said that because you saw my title? Believe it or not, I’m not actually a vday grouch. I think the aesthetic of Valentine’s day is so cute. I mean I do love the idea. I always looked forward to my mom giving me a little basket when I was a kid or having special decorations and treats at school. Anyone else had those candygrams at school and you were hoping to be the glen coco of your class? I was sadly not…sigh.

Anywho, as much as I love the colors and the idea of Valentine’s day, sometimes you have to think…is it really as special as people make it out to be? Other than my mom, I had one Valentine my entire life thus far (who also lasted only one Valentine’s day I might add) and on that day we did what couples usually do. So, we hung out, exchanged gifts, etc.  Sometimes you have to think…couldn’t this have been done on any day? Can’t you can go on a special trip, propose, give gifts, have sex with roses on the bed, etc anyday? The answer is and always will be….yes. If that’s the case, then what makes Valentine’s day so extra special?

Maybe it’s just the atmosphere of it all. I can understand that completely, but don’t forget that there are 364 other days as well to spoil each other. Some may say Vday is overrated. When I was younger, I would say those people are crazy, but now I can understand why. Don’t get me wrong, I still get sucked into the thought of wishing I had a valentine. I mean I can’t help it. For many years, my mind has been sucked into the thought of this consumerism filled holiday. I will admit also though, that despite my last post about self pleasuring, as a single person it would be nice to just have someone for that one day say to you “You don’t have to take your wallet out today.” Some may not agree, but I know I have some people that are with me.

At the end of the day, tomorrow is Valentine’s day…yes, but don’t let one day dictate you doing something special for your significant other. I mean, if it’s expected, then is it really special?

What are your thoughts on Valentine’s day?? Let me know in the comments!


Let’s Talk About It: Self Pleasure

“Is she talking about pleasuring herself!? That’s so taboo!”

Now that that’s out of the way, Valentine’s day is coming up, and that typically means guys getting their girls something for this oh so special day and showering them with the finer things in life. Girls that don’t have a valentine typically ending up trying to hurry up and find one for the day or just wishing they had one. With that being said, I know this title sounds like I mean one form of self pleasuring, which, for the record is very important too. You don’t have to mope because you’re not getting the Vday love that you want. But, I mean another type of self pleasuring.

Whether you’re a man or woman…have a boo or not…getting things for yourself is something that everyone should do. You don’t need someone to get you gifts (and this is coming from someone who wouldn’t decline if someone offered). You certainly don’t have to wait until Valentine’s day either. It’s important to indulge in yourself every now and then. Take yourself out to eat, to a movie, a spa, or whatever you like to do.

You don’t have to spend your time wishing someone was pleasuring you and spending money on you. Spend money on yourself. Pleasure yourself because you deserve it. Not because it’s Valentine’s day and you guess you’ll spend a little on yourself since no one else is going too. If you can’t afford to do it right now, then save up until you can do it and get whatever you like.

Moral of the story: self pleasure is important and you should take part in treating yourself…not just on Valentine’s day, but any day.



10 African American Books #BlogBlHistory

It’s time for challenge number two for black history month! This challenge is to name 10 African American books and their authors. Again, check out the original creator of the challenge, KathrynTHall.

1. Black Enough: Stories of Being Young and Black in America

Authors-Ibi Zoboi & Jason Reynolds

2. Piecing Me Together

Author-Renee Watson

3. The Skin I’m In

Author- Sharon Flake

4. The Hate You Give

Author- Angie Thomas

5. Nappily Ever After

Author- Trisha R. Thomas

6. American Street

Author- Ibi Zoboi

7. Hidden Figures

Author-Margot Lee Shetterly

8. Becoming

Author- Michelle Obama

9. We Should All Be Feminists

Author- Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

10. Purple Hibiscus

Author- Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie


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January Life Update 2019

We’ve officially gotten through January and I have no idea how to feel. I feel like it kind of just zoomed on by. Here’s to hoping the year just slows down a bit. Before we get to the goals…one update I want to address that happened in January is that I had a birthday! I’m officially 24 now. I have no clue how to feel…besides rushed for time. I just hope this year bring about great surprises.

Now on to the goal updates!

Here’s a recap of the goals I made for January


I think the only one I was able to really accomplish was working on updating my social media’s a little more. I was already updating them pretty decently, but some of my social medias, such as Facebook, could use a little work. I tried to work on money managing, but it’s a little difficult when every ounce you get from your checks, you have to save up for your birthday. Now the holidays and my birthday are over, I can really get into money managing and working on saving.

Now let’s get into the goals I have for February!

Goals For February

○continue to work on money managing

○ get into working out

○continue to try and read more

○ (hopefully) get back into reading devotions



10 African American Inventors #BlogBLHistory

January has come and gone and now February is here. February is very important because it’s Black History Month. In honor of BHM, I’ll be doing a challenge every week created by Kathryn Hall. The name of this challenge is #BlogBlHistory, which is the combination of Black History Month and blogs. Today’s challenge is to name 10 African American inventors and their inventions!

  1. Madam CJ Walker- creator of African American hair care products
  2. Marie Van Brittan Brown-  invented a precursor to the home TV security system
  3. George Carruthers- created the ultraviolent camera/spectograph
  4. Dr. Patricia Bath- invented the Laserphaco probe
  5. Jan Ernst Matzeliger- invented an automated shoemaking machine that attached a shoe’s upper part to its sole
  6. Alexander Miles- invented automatic doors on elevators
  7. George Washington Carver-created over 300 products by using the peanut
  8. Dr. Shirley Jackson- invented the touch tone telephone, caller ID, and fiber-optic cable
  9. Garrett Morgan- developed the gas mask and traffic signal
  10. Charles Drew- invented the blood bank


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24 Things I Learned In 24 Years

It’s my birthday!! I’m officially 24 years old (kinda scary). In honor of me being 24, I’m going to attempt to list 24 things I’ve learned in 24 years. I’m still learning a whole lot, so I’m not sure if I’ll make it to 24…but here goes!

  1. Everybody’s winging this adult thing
  2. Adulting sucks
  3. High school is not how they show it in the movies
  4. Depression is a bitch
  5. You don’t need a relationship to be happy
  6. The journey to finding yourself is a long one
  7. College is also a bitch
  8. $1000 is the equivalent of $1 in the adult world
  9. I have the strength to step away from something that doesn’t make me happy
  10. If you want it…go get it
  11. Procrastination is equally a bitch
  12. Sometimes you have to separate yourself from your loved ones and take care of yourself and your feelings first
  13. I can wear crop tops as an insecure plus sized woman and still rock em
  14. I don’t like working for other people
  15. Don’t jump into college. Take time and learn what you actually want.
  16. It’s none of their business
  17. Your self worth isn’t based on the opinion of what guys think
  18. Trump is a major bitch
  19. There’s more to do than you think
  20. I still don’t understand taxes
  21. You’re not going to be the same person you were years ago and that’s ok. It’s called change.
  22. It’s good to change, but don’t let anything or anyone have you change so much that you’re not even happy with who you’ve become.
  23. I have a long way to go.
  24. The best is yet to come.


I made it! I hope you guys enjoyed my list and maybe related to some of these yourself.

cheers to 24!